Multiply Christ in Your Marriage
Husbands: Love your wives like Christ loved the church
“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word,” (Ephesians 5:25–26)
As we continue to move through Ephesians as a church I want to challenge my fellow husbands to multiply Christ in your marriage by loving your wives as Christ loved the church. How did he do that?
Jesus died for the church (v. 25)
The first thing he did is he “gave himself up” for the church. He died for her. What does that mean for us as husbands? It means leading our wives by dying to ourselves daily for the good of our wives. It means waking up every morning or coming home from work every evening and committing to care about her more than you care about yourself. It means doing things that neither one of you wants to do simply so that she would not have to do them. This is a hard calling, and it’s a wonderful picture of Christ and the gospel to the rest of the world – and especially to our wives.
He made her holy and cleansed her (v. 26)
Second, Jesus made the church holy – he sanctified her – and he cleansed her of her sins. What does this mean for us as husbands? It means if we’re going obey this calling we have to take a personal interest in the holiness and salvation of our wives.
What does this look like practically? First, it means we must be cultivating a strong relationship with God in regular times of Bible reading and prayer on our own. How can we give to our wives what we don’t even have ourselves? Second, it means we shoulder the burden of leading spiritually in the home. Don’t make your wife get the kids together at night for a Bible story and prayer. You take the initiative to do that. Don’t make her be the one motivating the family to get to church on Sundays and to be involved throughout the week. You take that responsibility on yourself. And lead in repentance. Model to her and to your household that godly leadership means being the first to admit your sins and ask for forgiveness.
Husbands, multiply Christ in your marriage by leading it like Christ led the church.